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Sunshine and Dancing Shadows

One of the most interesting things in the world, is how others perceive you. You have limited control over this perception, and the rest remains with the individual looking at you, and their background, their biases, their history, their personality. I have no idea why some of you read this blog, and no idea whether its doing any good for any of you or not, but that’s not my concern. I have no idea how any of you perceive me. What you see when you look at me, or for those of you who’ve never seen me, how you imagine me to be. I’m not talking just physically either, I mean, what kind of a person do you think I am? Do you see me as a woman? A victim? A disembodied voice? Am I true? Am I a lie? Maybe I’m a reflection of you? What about a shadow? Am I your shadow dancing on the wall? A dark impression of a dark memory in your mind that normally stays hidden but is seen when exposed to the light? Who am I to you?

These are some of the questions that float around in my mind, but are more prevalent today, thanks to the newfound attention this blog has been receiving. I am flattered and honored that my friend at found my blog to be of enough interest to honor me with the New Blogger Award, but what does it mean? Do I now owe her or anyone reading this anything in particular? Am I now obligated to create posts that are infotaining enough to get my point across while dancing like a monkey to keep you coming back for more? Am I allowed to continue on as before, without regard to who may or may not be reading this, or why?

I have no answers.

I cannot pretend to not know that there are people reading this now, just as I cannot pretend to not know that there is a spotlight, no matter how big or small, on me now. I’m not sure how this will affect me in writing this blog, but I am sure that I will be attempting to write still as though no one were reading, and to keep that blunt honesty that I have tried to maintain at all costs. If nothing else, I owe it to myself.

Today I am happy. I have spent time taking pictures of some of the beauty that is found downtown, and of my shadow in different poses. I love the idea of my shadow dancing, mirroring my own life where I am continuously dancing, even if it’s not recognized. Shadows are most always seen as scary and almost evil, or at the very least, as mischievous and tricky as seen in Peter Pan. Why can’t our shadows be our friends? I really think that today my shadow was my friend and my dance partner. There is a tremendous amount of delight and joy that can be found when dancing with your shadow. I’m sure to anyone looking in on me in my backyard, it looked ridiculous- a full-grown woman dancing around, holding odd poses and laughing at her shadow, but for me, it was magical. I did feel like a kid, but it was a great sensation.

How often we forget that it’s okay for us to play! We run around, putting life into a neat, ordered “to do” list, checking things off as we get them done. Graduate high school? Check. Get accepted into a college or university? Check. Get a job? Check. Get married? Check. And so on and so on. For the record, if we were doing a huge checklist for life, I’d be failing miserably at this task. I seem to jump around a lot, and not do things in order, or do some things at all. Luckily, life is not a “to do” list. Life is so much more, and is so much more fun as a result. Life is about living in the moment, and taking advantage of opportunities as they present themselves, even the ones to play. A thought that struck me in the shower a few days ago was, “The best part about living, is living.” I like that. A lot.

After class, a classmate walked with me to my car. Which is clear across campus. He talked with me the entire time, and we jumped around from topic to topic. It was great. I haven’t had a conversation that comfortable and free-flowing with someone I barely knew in a long time. It went so well in fact, that I gave him a ride to his place and we decided to do this again on Wednesday. That’s right, the woman who almost never makes plans, just goes with the flow, has made plans to just hang out and chat with someone for about an hour and a half on Wednesday. What has the world come to? I don’t know, but it sure is beautiful.

Dance shadows, dance!

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5 thoughts on “Sunshine and Dancing Shadows

  1. I’m my own shadow dancing on the wall,you know that 😉 And dancing entertainment monkey has always been my job! I’ve always loved shadows,I wouldn’t be here without them…only thing on my to do list:”Don’t get by a bus.”…so far,so good.

  2. I’ve danced with my Shadow and we’re a great team. As for “to do” lists, I keep forgetting mine. 😉

    And by the way, you’re not obligated to do anything other than be yourself. There are no strings attached to that award. It simply means I really like what you do here. There is no pressure… truly. I’m sorry if honoring you made you feel uncomfortable in any way.

    • badthings07 on said:

      That was me thinking out loud 🙂 I really am honored and flattered!

      “To do” lists are best forgotten!

      • Out loud thinking can be therapeutic. I really should do more of it. You ask questions which cause me to stop and ponder… while I was aware the award might draw more attention to your thoughts here, and was one reason I passed it on to you, I did consider asking you privately if you’d want that additional attention brought your way. I did not, however, and considered that might be rude. However, I feel what you have to say, and especially how you say it, to be of great value.

        I certainly don’t desire you to change, as I’m sure none of those drawn to read you would wish you to do. You are who you are which is why I love you, my friend.

        You inspire… and it is because of you that I have now started to find my own voice on this issue after so many, many years.

        I knew you’d be flattered, but not all good things which draw attention are wanted, so I was reluctant. I followed my gut. I always do. It sometimes gets me into trouble, but most times not. This time, I risked the sensitive nature of the topic because like you, I feel publicity is required. I kinda felt you’d not only understand but would also feel honored…

        …and I thank you for accepting. We are strength as one, but Strength in Numbers.

        By the way, I’ll be hosting a screening of “The Invisible War” in my town. Not sure of dates and such yet. But, the application process is beginning. Let me know if you are interested. I’ll send links your way.


  3. She’s totally wrong,you’re under tons of pressure now,everyone is looking at you,staring,waiting for you to mess up and fail so we can point and laugh…ok,I’m already pointing and laughing…or maybe that’s my shadow…either way,you have to add tons of bells and whistles and some circus animals!

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